We are sure you intend to be every bit a nice guy. All of us have the same needs when it boils down to it — we’re looking for sex and a little bit of intimacy, even if it’s just sharing in each others lusts and fantasies with our bodies from time to time. Yet how come one seems to have a habit of scaring off the objects of your lust? Has one ever been asked to leave a kink party or sex club? Had someone complain that one’s behavior was threatening? Maybe one has even heard directly, or indirectly through the grape vine that others find one creepy. What could be the cause of this, when one is never desiring to hurt another?
Archive for September, 2011
There are STDs and there are STDs. While no one wants to get a sexually transmitted disease barring a few messed up weirdos known as bug chasers, it is a fact of life that these infections are much more common then we think. In particular, HPV — the human papiloma virus — and HSV, or Herpes Simplex Virus, are incredibly common in the human population. Does the person with these conditions face a life time of loneliness and dread? To the contrary, sex is still possible and not out of reach even for those with a positive diagnosis.
HPV causes both genital warts and cervical changes in women depending on the strain. One boon from modern science to adult dating is the creation of a vaccine for the major strains of this disease. Although it is primarily marketed to teenagers, it may be possible for even adults to get vaccinated depending on their doctor’s advice and the needs of their life style. At any case, these diseases are both incredibly common and highly manageable, not worth losing sleep over as long as one is practicing safer sex.
At least one in four people in the population have exposure to the herpes simplex virus. This disease is considered a minor nuisance by many, though its first flare ups can be painful in many cases people carry it without any symptoms and any knowledge of it. Even many people who are tested regularly for more serious diseases like HIV or chlamydia are never routinely tested for herpes because it is not considered a serious threat to health or well being. It can easily be managed with either certain medications or by changes in diet and the use of supplements, particularly the amino acid L-Lysine. Those with this condition can have healthy and happy bedroom intimacies as long as they use protection and avoid sex during active out breaks. One can maintain the same partner for years with out ever infecting them.
Getting laid is easier than ever thanks to adult personals sites, but even after we have made that initial connection we still need to carry it out into something more. The search for sex means making a good impression on those first meetings in person, the first date and the flirtations beyond that lead to the bedroom. How can we do this? It is not about being the hottest most studly or woman with model like beauty, but simply about knowing how to make a good impression on the other person.
Prepare ahead of time and be well groomed. Shave or do whatever one does to feel beautiful and sexy, including picking out one’s best outfit that combines alluring appeal with appropriateness for whatever outing is planned. Not only will this make one look better but the confidence it lends will make the other person all the more eager to connect with you for adult dating. It is important to show courtesy in whatever ways are possible. Do not be late if at all possible, and always call the other person ahead if there is a delay or other problem, even it is only going to be five minutes. This is one reason most people consider it crucial to exchange cell phone numbers before the first meeting in order to ease any logistical issues such as being caught in unexpected traffic.
Be sure to observe some rules of basic dating etiquette as well. Stand up to greet a date on arrival and greet them appropriately. Men can rarely go wrong by showing some basic chivalry like pulling out the other person’s chair on arrival. Never be rude to the wait staff as this has been shown to be one of the number one turn offs during surveys of potential relationships. Make sure to chew with one’s mouth closed, use a napkin, and other basic but oft overlooked skills.