Archive for May, 2011

Looking for the Perfect Blow Job

Adult Dating, Adult search | Posted by Marsha Harding
May 28 2011

What is the perfect blow job? Guys like all sorts of sensations. One thing is for sure – plenty of guys would enjoy running an adult search for those willing to give it a shot to see who is the best in the land.

Some women may do it with some build up. There would be kissing and caressing, followed by eventually unzipping and going for it. By the time a woman like this gets to the cock, she may be revved up and ready to suck hard. A gentle, edging approach is another way that some men may find frustrating, while others would find exquisite and ultimately explosively orgasmic. Another variation is the deep throat, often talked about as a favorite among men. However, a woman who is less skilled at deep throating still can do wonders with a hand and mouth combination.

For men who are willing to check out the gay dating scene as well, there are plenty more possibilities. Testing the sensations produced by male and female contestants could be an amazing enterprise for the bisexual and gay male set. Curious guys may even give it a try, if they’ve even wondered if a man has inherent intuition about how to do a man right.

How does one go about judging blow jobs? It really can’t be anything but personal preference. For those who like it handled in the no nonsense way, powerful suction and a strong hand combo might be the ticket. The one who brings on orgasm the fastest might also work for this type. Guys who like to take their time might really love a blow job that lets the teasing and edging go on until they can barely stand it. The most slow-building, explosive orgasm might be their favorite style. Finding an eventual winner, according to most guys more than likely, wouldn’t be nearly as important as sampling all the varieties of mouths and tongues along the way.

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The Search

Adult Dating, Adult search, Casual Sex, Dating | Posted by Marsha Harding
May 24 2011

An adult search through the back pages of a magazine, or more likely these days across the net, could yield some very interesting results. First of all there are all kinds of guys and girls looking for all kinds of encounters, from dating to getting together groups, to connecting for parties and of course people just looking for out and out sex. Gay encounters, heterosexual swinging, a mix of both, whatever one wants for their intimate life, they can more or less find it online.

Online populations are pretty much equal, no one group has a monopoly on rights or an entre to more sites then others and if one wishes to traipse across a few social portals looking for more than one group to infiltrate or more than just one person to chat with, online is where we find the most options. Given its anonymity, interactions on the net usually see freer searching as no one truly worries they might be found out even if they are searching more kinky encounters or some far afield from their usual sexual proclivities.

An adult search online also serves those people who should maybe not be searching in any real sense of the word. Men or women stepping out on their long-term partners, married guys and girls, anyone in a steady monogamous situation can search all they like online, determining whether or not the adult search is enough for their wandering eye or if they want to pursue the results of their search offline. Once again the anonymity of the web serves us well.

It’s true though that no one can predict what their search will yield and given the deep well of possibilities the net provides we might be a’searching a very long time indeed, or find the search so enticing we never want to stop it. Whatever the results or however long each of our adult searches take, it is still wholly enticing to engage online.

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What Exactly Is An Adult Friend?

Online Dating, Sex | Posted by Marsha Harding
May 19 2011

We all need friends. These days we are exposed to a potential mess of them online, people we can quickly become close to and meet off line, others we will never meet due to how far away from us they live. If someone shares an intimacy with you, be it over the web or in person, supports you and provides comfort, good common sense and you do the same for them, no matter if they are only ever a digital presence in your life, they are for all intents and purposes a friends.

But what of the adult friend? Someone we truly go to hell and back with, even online, maybe someone we share more than just a few hopes and dreams with. Maybe they are someone we cyber with on occasion or we begin to build a relationship with strictly in a chat-room. Or maybe we have an adult friend outside of our marriage, someone of the sex we are attracted to, someone not our spouse who we grow close to? What really constitutes an adult friend and do they have to be a flesh and blood presence in our lives?

When the adult friend becomes our lover that’s when things might get sticky, but then again our lovers and spouses are supposed to be our friends, they are supposed to have our backs like a friend would.

If we’re lucky enough to find a person online or off we can grow that close to that maybe we can begin to love them romantically and they us, then maybe we have indeed found the very best adult friend we will ever find. If the romance runs sour but we can maintain the friendship, a truly adult approach to breaking up, then both people see the best return from a bad situation. And if our friend only just remains a friend, and whether we find them off line or on, it can’t hurt to have another person we can rely on.

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The Joys Of The Old Stanby

Adult Dating, Casual Sex, Sex | Posted by Marsha Harding
May 15 2011

The term old stand-by is sometimes heard with a tone that means it is a bad thing to be. It might be that people think of it as the adult friend you call when you’re horny and all other possible options have been exhausted. It would be depressing or downright insulting to be that person, and no kind person would want to make someone a last resort.

Despite that reputation, old standby relationships can be a beautiful thing. What can be so bad about having a friend who you know loves a good time, can often be available on short notice, and has built this connection with you over months or even years?
The friend relationship is a great aspect of this kind of connection. Often when someone is trying to connect with someone in a romantic sense, all the posturing comes out. Desperate to find and shag a certain lifetime someone, the seeker is likely to not show the true self or act in ways meant mainly to impress. This kind of behavior can do more to keep up barriers between people. With the old standby friend, you are more likely to be down-to-earth. You both know at least one thing you want together, and after that, there may actually be more room for communication and closeness of other kinds.

The old standby relationship can form from a basic good friend relationship that turns sexy. It can evolve between people who were once in a primary romantic relationship and broke up, but are friendly and know they had a good thing going with the sex. Some adult friends of this nature decide that they won’t have sex when either of them is in another relationship. For those who practice open relationships, they are most likely free to get it on anytime the mood strikes. Developing and maintaining a sexual rapport with a friend can lead to a lifetime of enjoyable and loving times.

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Adult Humor

Adult Dating, Casual Sex, Sex | Posted by Marsha Harding
May 10 2011

The word adult is a funny thing. What exactly does it mean and when does it mean it? There’s no need to start an enhanced interrogation every time someone uses the word, but you would do well to pause for a moment. Is your friendly neighbor inviting you to an adult dinner party where Uncle Bob, Aunt Judy, and you and the other couple down the street are going to sit down to a homemade dinner without the distraction of the kids? Or will this be that other kind of adult dinner party with a plausible premise but winds up looking like a 70s swinger porno? You might want to find out for sure before you arrive and Aunt Judy wants to know why you’d wear short shorts with no underwear at the dinner table.

How about adult dating? Does that mean that you get to go to that nice Thai place in town rather than the burger joint? You’ll listen to James Taylor rather than Snow Patrol? No, most people know that adult dating means you actually want to get laid. And that would be different from teenage dating how?

It really is too bad that Adult Communities are only apartment complexes or neighborhoods where middle-aged and older people live without having to be bothered by those meddling kids. Their communities might sponsor special trips to a play or to the mall, and people pretty much do the homemaker thing. One could imagine a whole community of active, sexed-up, 55 and over adults who sunbathe naked in their yards and when they have a group meeting in the rec room, they really mean it. Now that would be a way to take early retirement.

Hopefully, you will never set out to learn about interesting ways for sex and wonder why the teacher is talking about physics. Check twice to make sure you adult education class will be teaching what you really want to know.

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The Waiting

Online Dating, Single and looking | Posted by Kaye
May 06 2011

If you are single and looking for some action or whether you are gearing up to find that special someone to spend a life with you should wisely prepare. You can find that success much faster and more efficiently if you make a plan and stick to it. There are many who just blithely go about their daily lives and give little to no thought to something like this. Consider, if you are looking at buying a car wouldn’t you plan for an investment of that importance? How much more important is it to find a partner you may spend a lifetime with, or even just a piece of ass for yourself. Even a weekend fuck buddy should warrant at least some serious consideration, but often it does not. People simply say they want to get laid and then head out to the club or long on to some online dating community with no thoughts beyond what’s in front of them. How is this supposed to increase their chances of success? Use a little bit of common sense and planning before you make your move out there. Figure out first of all what you are after, and who you would like to be with. If you just want some action then decide where you might best find that, and how best to proceed with it. If you are looking for a lifelong partner this will obviously demand much more in depth consideration. You may think nothing of it just to get a little tail for the weekend but it could become a bigger issue. If you aren’t careful you might find yourself getting involved with someone that is not good for you, or with whom you actually share little sexual chemistry.

All these things could bear a great deal on your happiness whether it is just short term or a much longer endeavor. Shouldn't you consider your personal happiness with someone in a relationship just as important or even more important than buying a car or a house, which are just material objects? Take the time to give thought and planning to what you are in for and you will go far in finding success before you even get out of the gate.

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The Ups And Downs Of Love

Online Dating, Sex | Posted by Kaye
May 02 2011

Love is a wandering, wacky, fickle little fucker. Poets have tried to capture itsessence, millions of couples live in it and attempt to build on it, internet dating sites traffic in the promise of it. It might very well be the reason we are on the planet after all and it might just be what saves us in the end. But love is a force unto itself. It is unstoppable, try as we might to halt it and it is indefinable; try as we might to create our art around it.
Mighty when it has us, love is also the most destructive force of all when it falls away from two people.
It burns bright enough to illuminate and hot enough to burn.
As quickly as it can come upon us, love can die. The are any number of reasons why a romantic relationship blooms and flourishes, why sex grows into intimacy, why two people find one another and suddenly find all they want is nothing else but one another as there are reasons why love suddenly rots on the vine. It is just as mysterious good and bad. There is no way to calculate, no way to determine or predict and certainly no way to know why some loves survive while others don’t.

Love knows no logical, love is often selfish and love never plays fair though it does play favorites…it favorites itself.
When it comes to love we are all in for the punishment, masochists in the best sense of the word. We all know fully well the highs we might experience being in love as well as the lows we will have to crawl through falling out of it. Just as our brains cannot remember how pain feels, we still plow forward even though we know the risks, have lived through the sleepless nights and the weight loss, because in the end we are fueled not only by the love we have but the love we might have, not only by the love we take but by the love we can make and not only by the fear of the break-up but by the elation of the acceptance.
And that makes us either fools or eternal optimists, or a little bit of both.
But mostly that makes us open to love.

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