Archive for April, 2011

The P Word

Adult Dating, Sex | Posted by Kaye
Apr 27 2011

It all depends on the couple and the intimacy and strength of their relationship whether it will be a bonding experience or a breaking experience if they have strong political differences. The issue of politics can and often is a very divisive one, and not just over questions of tax policy. It is typically the issues of the day that have great importance to those particular people. It should be granted that it is often more impacting for those who are more vocal on their beliefs and that most or very many just keep them to themselves. If there is good strong communication skills established between them then their respective positions will eventually be known and discussed. There can be terrible arguments over issues but there can as well be a great respect for one another and a cementing, a strengthening of the relationship. This can and does affect the relationship as a whole, from how the couple relates to each other to the sex as well. It is something that more and more should be talked about and shared whenever couples meet. If you are single and looking in the adult dating world it may be helpful to list some of these differences on your profile if you should happen to join an online dating community sometime.

The reason being is that you could meet some hot sexy single that you really seem to mesh with a great deal and then once you are together you discover they have a political stance that is very opposite of your own. How will you deal with that? How will they? No one likes unpleasant surprises and it can leave one feeling angry, upset and down, to find one ambushed by an argument which suddenly sparked over something heard or seen. It may ruin your chances of getting laid as well as the possibilities of a great relationship. It is just important to be sure where one stands so that something doesn’t come along and hit you both between the eyes unexpectedly and cause division between you. You will have to work that much harder for common ground if you are not adequately prepared for it.

In the end politics and religion are supposed to be those subjects we aren’t supposed to discuss in polite company, least of all on a date…or at least until partners are in bed!

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The Lesser Of 2 Evils

Casual Sex, Dating, Sex | Posted by Kaye
Apr 22 2011

The fall-out of one person rejecting another not only weights heavily on the person who is rejected, it also weighs greatly on the person necessitating the breaking-up or the rejection. Any mature feeling adult will want to avoid hurting some one they cared for, have once loved or even only used as a fuck-buddy. But when the inevitable turn of events inevitably turn to one person having to break-up with there lover, there will be hurt, but at least a hurt we hope we can deal with.
Not wanting to be with a person we once wanted to be with follows no logical rule and is the very worst kind of slap-in-the-face rejection. Anticipating the damage that will be done, seeing the hurt in our soon-to-be-exe’s eyes, knowing that we will be the cause of their pain where, before, all we wanted to do was save them pain, is a terrible burden to bare. But it is infinitely better then prolonging what needs to occur or, avoiding the hurt all together to live a lie. Sex suffers, psyche’s fray and families live with a secret as insidious as any other.
Logically it makes no sense to want to hurt someone, less so if we care for them and this is where too many of us halt, too many waver and so many find themselves in loveless relationships maintained simply because one person didn’t want to hurt another.
Many of us endure a relationship long past its sell-by-date simply not to hurt our partner, too many marriages have lasted partners’ lifetimes with one truly never being in love with the other, but simply too scared to have ever left! But what is worse is
Staying in a lie, not being true to one’s self or one’s lover because of coward-ness. To create a false sense of security built on a brittle house of cards both partners always feel around them.
Sometimes it is unfortunately the lesser of two evils to make the break, say goodbye and endure the hurt we inflict and the hurt we feel then enduring another day and avoiding the possibility of a deeper connection for ourselves and the partner we no longer want to be with. Sometimes the truly last gift of caring we can bestow, the final moment of intimacy for our ex sex partner and love mates is to let them go, to give them the start of a new life while they feel they are certainly seeing the end of one.
And sometimes we must forgive ourselves to for what we know is best for all.

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The Investment

Adult Dating, Single and looking | Posted by Kaye
Apr 17 2011

Whenever you apply yourself with all your skill you are making an investment. This is an investment that will see that you are no longer single and looking on the scene. You will have set yourself up for success and improved your image and abilities as well. It can be a very rough and treacherous world on the adult dating scene. There will be many people out there who will use you for their own ends. This is perfectly fine if you are getting something of equal or lesser value in return. That is the only time you should allow yourself to be used, unless it is part of a larger plan. There are many different tactics and strategies you can use and these will continually hone your skills to a sharper and sharper edge. This will serve you well in surviving and prospering by landing you that person who is right for you. It may be that you just want a fuck buddy or you may want more.

Whatever it is you are looking for you must have the skills to acquire it. This does not mean that you are ruthless and dishonorable or hurtful to others in trying to get laid but rather you are wise to any tricks. You will have equipped yourself to fend off any crooked attacks and you will have made yourself a desirable sex partner. You want to be able to treat others as you would want to be treated, you want to be seen as an honorable player yet also perfectly capable of playing the dirty game with those who will use such tactics against you. You want to always be one step ahead and smarter than your opposition. You want to control the action and control the movement of the pieces on the board rather than being a pawn and used yourself. You can do this by studying others, determining their motives and determining their tactics. Once you have done this you can begin piecing larger and larger piece of the puzzle together. This will put you in the position to use those pieces for your ends as opposed to someone else and having the right pieces only makes for a better whole.

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The Hunt

Casual Sex, Dating | Posted by Kaye
Apr 12 2011

There are many different strategies for dating that work for different people. Some swear by their strategies while others are unsure and try one, then another, yet still another in securing dates or just having sex. Whomever you are, you will have one, whether you think you do or not. If you are wise you will take time before moving on your target. You will look at yourself and decide for yourself what it is you are looking for. Are you looking for just a fuck buddy or something more substantial than that, something intimate and deeper. Then you will decide where you might best find that thing you are looking for. If you just want the fuck buddy you might consider looking at an adult dating site online or you might consider some other alternative. If you are looking for a commitment there are many fine sites online that cater to that very desire and many are very well staffed and can help you get on the right track. Then once you have decided what you want and where you can find it you look to yourself to see about ways of improving your game. What approach is likely to get what you want? What kind of clothes? Hairstyle? What can you do for yourself to improve your chances of getting that ass or that person. Then once you have done all those things you will make your move and zero in on prospective targets and begin working your game. You may go for an aggressive up front approach or you may go for a sly and subtle approach such as introducing yourself as a friend, and taking things slower and more deliberate. Whatever you do you must always look for every reasonable advantage you can find. You will need every angle you can get if you want to get that second date or that phone number or just plain get laid if that is what you want. The more planning you put into a mission the more chance it has of success…no matter if it for intimate rewards or some work related trial and error. That is simply good solid common sense, but unfortunately is all too uncommon for many folks.

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The Happy Profile

Adult Dating, Online Dating | Posted by Kaye
Apr 08 2011

The proliferation of adult dating sites, has all single men and women wondering if the success stories can indeed be true. Are people truly finding dates, let alone their soul mates as often as advertised? It is logical to assume that the more people one culls through the better one’s possibility of finding some one, still there has to be work involved to get to a point of even a small amount of successful returns.
Being a member of a dating sites or social network for any period of time, certain facts become clear, the most apparent of which is…what one puts out one gets back. The net is a benign place; it holds no prejudice, is not influenced all that much really by trends. The sparkling initial jolt one gets when singing on to a dating site can be easily dulled after a time of slight frustration when the difficulty of finding someone dwindles and the culling through face upon face gets to be a little tiresome. It truly can be a lot of work to maintain a positive attitude after a time, even if one does see some initial interest. One must be ever vigilant playing in a pond as big as the internet and being only one of a million fishes swimming up stream for a connection, dates or some sex.
If one really wants to increase their chances on these on-line sites or at the very least feel they are working towards increasing them, all negativity should be filtered out of our on-line profile. We should present the world a happy, upbeat persona…even if one doesn’t feel particularly happy, peppy or gay. Rejections should roll Jesus-like off us as we turn the other cheek, we should be moving forever forward in what we are hoping for and we should always be hoping. The words we use on our profile should always reveal a bright view of the world, sarcasm and sassiness have their place but they do not come across well in print unless you happen to write like Mark Twain and nobody writes like Mark Twain expect for Mark Twain! Everyone who reads a profile has most likely written one and we all know nothing is a rosy as we can describe, the time for the meat and potatoes of what our lives are about, our sexual kinks and hang-ups and our dim and distant, often times disturbing paths, can be served up later, during any date we wish. A positive profile we help get that date!

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The Good Impression

Casual Sex, Dating, Sex | Posted by Kaye
Apr 03 2011

Whenever you are on the dating scene you want to make the best impression that you can so that you really improve your chances of getting laid to the best of your ability. You are after a piece of ass and if you want it you have to work for it and make the effort to go that extra mile. This will be noticed and will be appreciated. It may not immediately be evident to the person you are trying to impress but it may impress someone to the side that you did not expect. This could lead to an even better experience in having sex than what you anticipated. You must realize that there will be many others watching and not just the intended that you have it for.

You must allow yourself to see beyond what is right in front of you. There are times when you yourself are so impressed with someone that you concentrate completely on them and this is a form of tunnel vision. This can limit you severely in what you can see and thus act upon. If you want to nail down that great fuck buddy then expand your horizons and do not put all your proverbial eggs in one basket. You must figure that things may not work out for that person and you want others on standby so that you can easily switch to another target and still make that kill. You do not want to have planned only for one person and things not hash out as you expected them too. It is a certainty that no plan you will ever make, will ever survive contact with the enemy. This means that somewhere along the way the one thing you can be certain of, is that a monkey wrench will get thrown in there somewhere. You can only be certain of uncertainty. When you are aware of this and you are building this into your plans to find a nice delicious pussy or cock you will not go without and have to masturbate alone. Caring enough and caring for are two of the most attractive qualities any single guy or girl can show-off to another.

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The Proof Is In The Using

Uncategorized | Posted by Kaye
Apr 02 2011

Though they might be made these days with a higher aesthetic in mind-and cost more because of it-the way anyone of us judge quality in adult toys is how well they work when they are ultimately used. Regardless of how a Pyrex dildo might resemble a modern-day sculpture and how much a couple might be prompted to display it on their mantle, the simple truth is, any sex toy is made to be used and the only way to judge its worth is in the using.
What usually prompts adult toy manufacturers is criticism from their buyers. People no longer wanted to be tethered by chords or batteries with a small shelf life so adult toy makers availed themselves of better battery technology and began including re-charable abilities with their vibrators. Consumers began to hear reports about specific materials being harmful, sex toy makers made sure their products were not made of these materials any longer. Clit stimulators and prostate massagers began to get more press, better ones began to be made. In no other industry is there such a symbiotic relationship between consumer and maker and this is mainly because there is no other way to judge an adult product then to use it. A car maker might introduce a sleek new design that sells only because it is a sleek new design and fashion comes and goes to nobody’s whim, but adult toys proof is in their pudding, in their use.
In the end, a vibrator is only as good as its vibrating, a cock ring only affective if placed on around a cock; it is the old use-it-or-lose-it philosophy when it comes to our sex toys. How sleek they look, how well the batteries recharge or what they are made of really only concerns us in light of their effectiveness. One can own the very best, top-of-the-line intimate massage device, with a price tag to go with its reputation, but if it doesn’t help one masturbate more effectively than a cheaper everyday Rabbit vibrator what good is the more expensive model? All manner of advertising on adult single’s niche sites won’t really increase sales of an adult toy maker unless the toys advertised do the trick to get people off.
Like very few products we buy, our sex toys really have to deliver.

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